Right now you’re probably thinking, but the honeymoon is the ONLY thing keeping me going throughout this whole wedding planning mess! I hear you. I understand. The honeymoon was the shining light at the end of the tunnel for me too. I was looking forward to our cruise to the Caribbean months in advance. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a honeymoon. I’m just saying that it might be wise to consider having your honeymoon at least a few weeks after the wedding. Here’s why.
It will cause you less stress in the long run.
You don’t need to hear it from me that weddings are stressful. Even if you’re the most laid back person on the entire planet, there is going to be some level of stress involved during your wedding planning process. It’s a fact of life. Do yourself a favor, and don’t add to the stress! If you want to have the perfect honeymoon, some level of planning is going to be mandatory. The problem is you won’t enjoy the fun parts like picking out your hotels, deciding what excursions to sign up for, and even choosing what drink package you should get. Let’s be real, that last one is important! Instead of the honeymoon being this bright spot, it will just become something else on your ever-growing to-do list. You don’t want that!
You’ll have time to unwind after the wedding.
I honestly feel like you should get a gold medal for getting through your wedding. After the whole weekend was over, my husband and I were absolutely exhausted. We both looked at each other and were just so happy that we didn’t have to jump on a plane and travel to our honeymoon destination. I seriously don’t know how people do it. Obviously, you want to be awake and bubbly during your honeymoon, not worn out and tired. Instead of booking the honeymoon right after your wedding, I’d suggest taking an extra day off from work instead so that you can recuperate in peace.
It gives you more of an opportunity to enjoy friends and family.
One of my favorite memories from our wedding weekend was having a late lunch the next day with all of our closest friends. This wasn’t planned beforehand or anything, it just naturally came together. People weren’t flying out until the next day, so we just happened to be texting each other about lunch plans. There ended up being about 16 of us who met up. It was so relaxing and pleasant. We sat outside, ordered drinks and appetizers, and got some more time to enjoy being with the people who literally flew across the country to see us tie the knot. Don’t forget that a big part of your wedding is the people who attend. Now that we’re adults, most of our friends don’t live around the block anymore. I cherish every moment that we’re together because I know those times are few and far between.
Delaying your honeymoon will help you ward off the post wedding blues.
Yes, this is a thing you should know about. A lot of brides actually get depressed when the wedding is finally over. It really makes sense when you think about it. You’ve literally spent at least a year planning for this one day that will probably go by faster than you ever thought possible. A lot of brides get that feeling of shock when everything is over. If you honeymoon right away, then you really don’t have any other big events to look forward to. When we told a newly married friend that we were delaying the honeymoon for a month, she literally blurted out, “Ughhh that’s so smart. I’m so sad that everything is over. It’s just so normal again.” Being married is definitely nice, but if you already lived with your spouse, after the ceremony things do seem pretty much the same.
You can get your finances back in order.
Weddings have gotten to be so expensive it’s absolutely crazy. I basically fell out of my chair when I saw how much just booking a venue was. Is it too late to get into the wedding industry? Anyway, I was really surprised that most of the vendors want to be paid on the day of your wedding or at least want the final installment on the wedding day. Postponing your honeymoon gives you a chance to assess the financial damage and get a better sense of your honeymoon budget. You don’t want to spend your whole honeymoon stressing out about buying those $10 piña coladas. That’s no fun!
You’ll actually have time to pack and shop.
I’m not a big shopper, but I did enjoy picking out a few adorable dresses and bathing suits for the honeymoon. It was nice to have time after the wedding to treat myself a little. You’re going to need that, believe me! You’ll also get a chance to pack. I’m the type of person that has to lay everything out on the bed to get organized and inevitably make some cuts for what isn’t necessary/won’t fit in my suitcase. If we’d planned our honeymoon cruise right after the wedding, I literally would have just thrown some random T-shirts and shorts in a bag and called it a day! You don’t have time for packing on your wedding week! At least not well thought out packing.
You can space out the time you need off from work.
Depending on what field you work in, for some people, it’s nearly impossible to take 2 or 3 weeks off at a time. Delaying your honeymoon will give yourself and your boss some breathing room. You can take a few days off for the wedding and then take the additional week or whatever you need off later. Your boss might very well appreciate it!
You can extend that newlywed feeling.
Awwwwww! Remember, you’re getting married! You have to enjoy it. It’s nice to have a longer period of time to feel like you are indeed newlyweds and all of the cuteness/hopefully free champagne that comes with it. This is a once in a lifetime series of events that are happening right now. You want to be able to look back and feel like you really made the most of it.
What are you planning your honeymoon? Are you going to have it right after the wedding or delay it? What about those of you who are already married? What would you recommend for the honeymoon?
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