Congratulations! You’re married! You made it through the ceremony and reception. Now you get to enjoy a honeymoon, newlywed life, and those brand new kitchen appliances. Things are looking up.
But then you remember…
You have to write your wedding thank you cards! *cue dramatic Jaws music*
Fear not, you can do this! Luckily, you’ve found these great tips to help you slay those wedding thank you cards.
Write Down Every Gift You Received
First off, make a list of all the gifts you received for your wedding. It’s helpful to do this as you open your presents and cards. Write down the name of the person and the gift. Don’t skip anyone! Even if you know your brother got you that awesome Kitchen Aid Mixer, STILL WRITE IT DOWN! You’ve had a lot on your mind these past few months. Unload everything onto that paper so you don’t have to worry about it later.
Don’t Underestimate the Importance of the Thank You
Thank you cards are always nice, but to older generations the thank you card is of critical importance. People wait for their card and expect it to arrive in a timely manner. They took the time to get you a card/gift. You need to take the time to say thank you. Skipping thank you cards is not an option!
Split Your Thank You Cards into Groups
I found it helpful to split my thank you cards into different categories. This made the writing process a lot easier. I wrote all of the thank you notes for people who gave us checks, then those who gave us presents, and finally those that were in the bridal party. I had a separate template for each of these groups. Doing groups of cards at the same time made the process go by faster.
Make Sure You and Your Spouse Are on the Same Page
Have a clear conversation with your partner about the responsibilities of the thank you cards. Decide if both of you are going to be writing the cards or if one person will write them and the other will simply sign them. I wrote the majority of ours because of the handwriting neatness factor. There’s no “right” way to do this. You just need to make sure there is a plan in place.
Create a Schedule and Deadline
You should aim to get your thank you cards out as early as possible. Personally, I think this should be no later than 2 months after the wedding. Whatever your goal is, write down the date that they need to be done by. Now create a schedule. Will you write 5 a day? 20 every weekend? Pick what works best for you, and stick to it!
Get Cute Thank You Cards
This might sound silly, but you are going to be a lot more willing to write these notes if you actually like the design. This does not mean that you need to get expensive, custom cards. We actually got ours from Amazon. What this means is find a design that you like. Since our favors dealt with travel, we got these cards that had a little map on the front. I thought they were cute, and I liked the fancier envelope!
Add a Personal Touch
You should strive for each of your thank you cards to have at least one personal touch. This could be a comment about the gift they gave you or a special memory you have with that person from the reception or rehearsal. Most of your thank you cards can follow a similar format, you only need to adjust that detail.
Update Your List as Needed
I didn’t realize that a lot of people send gifts before and after the wedding. Make sure to add these people to your list! Just because the gift didn’t come on your wedding date, doesn’t mean you don’t need to write a thank you. Stay on top of it. I found this to be the most difficult part!
Celebrate Your Successes
Halfway done with your thank you cards? Go out to dinner to celebrate. Finished your 5 thank you cards for the night? Treat yourself to a glass of wine. ALL done with your cards? Have a party! There’s no way around that fact that writing thank you cards is tedious. Do anything you can to incentivize yourself or make it more exciting.
I hope this gives you the confidence to go out and slay those wedding thank you cards. Just remember, slow and steady wins the race. How are your wedding thank you cards coming? How did you survive writing yours? Share your stories below!